Confidence; the key to fear

Introduction

What you fear most in your life has an uncanny habit of becoming reality.Fear can be described as false evidence appearing real (F.E.A.R). This acronym defines what fear really is. Fear stimulates a strong belief, that something we do not like or something bad will happen, even when we do not have any real proof or justification for our feelings.Your mind is programmed to absorb everything it sees but it is left to you to select what to believe and what to reject. What you feed your mind with, is what it will believe.

* Why do we fear

We fear the unknown, we fear because we have no real knowledge about a thing. We fear because the human mind relies on experience to achieve confidence. Having identified the cause of fear, we can now move towards finding the solution to fear.We fear because we do not have any record of achievement(s) to rely on in that area or thing we fear. So the key to fear is to dare to do the thing we fear and gain experience in that area or thing you fear.

Let us illustrate the truth of this assertion I just made. Take the fear one gets the first time one attempts to drive. You will notice that this fear gradually wanes and fades away with daily practice until one can drive almost automatically without seeking for where the gear of the car is or where the accelerator or break is. We know almost mechanically what to do with the car and so become very confident and relaxed.

* Gaining confidence

Fear disappears when the mind gains confidence by doing the task we dread. Another common illustration we can readily refer to is that of a toddler who is learning to stand and walk. When you observe the child, you will notice that it fears to stand or walk but that fear does not paralyse it from trying to get up or to walk. From constant practice, that baby step will one day metamorphose into a joyful run.The above scenario plays out in our lives daily as we attempt to do anything worthwhile. My suggestion to all is to do that very thing that terrifies you and master fear in that area. We must not freeze when we are challenged by situations we have never handled before. I urge you not to run from what you fear, but rather run towards the source of fear. You will soon pleasantly discover that the fear was in you to energise you to take action and master that situation you fear.

* Advice
My advice to everyone is to attempt to do great things, make big plans, give that speech, take that medical test, go for that surgery, drive that car, and enrol for that course. Do something, do anything and don’t be immobilized by what you fear. Run towards what you fear, radiate boldness against all odds and soon fear melts away.Stand to be counted, breast that tape, my friend because you are a winner, I say to you fear not.


Yours in success
Victor Usifo

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